The Importance of a Positive Male Role Model
Too often you hear stories of young men who have had to grow up without a father. In today’s society, it seems more common to hear of a child being raised by their mother alone than with both parents. Truth is most kids just do not have enough positive male role models around them to look up to. This leads to the question, how can you be a good man if you have never had one around to model yourself after?
If you have grown up in a fatherless household chances are you have more respect for your mother, having to take on two roles. However, learning to respect women is something that your mother can try to teach, but is better learned by example. Think of a man that you see often, someone you respect such as a teacher or coach. Try to spend time with an uncle or a cousin, family is always an option for reaching out with questions you may not want to ask your mother.
An important thing to remember is turning to drugs or violence is never the answer. You may find a group of friends that you think are there for you, people that you enjoy spending time with, but if they are heading for trouble, chances are you will be right there with them. Staying clear of the negativity that surrounds a lifestyle of violence will not only allow you to stay out of trouble, but may also help you earn the respect and adoration of other young men around you.
Some say that there is no one around that they can look up to, no one that they respect to that degree. Luckily, this is never the case. While there may not be someone that is close to you, there are always books available. Pick a historical figure and study them. There are many positive male role models throughout history that set excellent examples for today’s youth.
Looking to the church is always an option. Boys need to hear that they are doing good, that they are on the right track and are doing the right thing. While your mom may encourage you daily, hearing it from a man is different. The church is there for guidance and support. Not only that, but most have programs and camps that could provide long lasting friendships. Never feel embarrassed about talking to your pastor, asking for help is nothing to be ashamed of.
What you have to keep in mind is that when you feel lost, feel like you are alone, there will always be someone there to talk to. Never keep your thoughts and emotions bottled in, all that will do is cause anxiety and depression. Talk to your councillor at school, they may be able to give you ideas of programs in your area. Surround yourself with only positive people, and you will see that by doing so, your mentality and the way that you look at the world will change.
- Your Value
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- You Are Valuable
- Voice Of Validation
- Don’t Compare
- Self Belief